Homophilic Heterophobe

Rarely do I post on specifically GLBT issues because, well, it's pretty much understood that this blog is gay because I'm gay (OK, bisexual, but let's not get bogged down by semantics) and this blog is about my girlfriend and I.

So, I have been having a few teensy, weensy issues (HA!) in my relationship as of late and I know straight people (to be read as my mom) like to attribute these to the fact that we're gay and we have more issues. To a certain extent I agree. We might have more personal drama (homophobism is a big one), but I think the fact that, because we do not get married, there are no societal pushes to make us stay together.

Let me explain.

Married people have all this pressure to stay married (not that it works) and it's harder for them to break up IMO. I know that I would think "Darnit, I promised till death do us part and I'm gonna do my damnedest to keep that promise."

Gay people, on the other hand, do not have that pressure. To be honest, I think that society and, unfortunately, the gay community, encourages us to split up at any sign of trouble. To wit, some of our well-meaning friends have pushed us to break up on several occasions (granted, they see what we are going through).

I wonder if the situation would be different if we were allowed to legally marry?

I'm sure that I haven't articulated this very well so I encourage y'all to leave some feedback. What do you think? Where do you stand on this issue?

Sunshine

PS. I'm not a heterophobe, folks. Breeders do have a place on this planet, too, y'know. :)