Introspection - the Last two months of OKMG Part 1 *Updated*

Given the recent turmoil of my relationship, one might wonder why I choose to continue forward, to salvage/repair this relationship. Hell, even if y'all aren't, I know that I am and would if I was looking at somebody else in this situation.

Let me explain by way of listing the series of incredible revelations that have occurred to me in the last few months of OKMG.

1. Clear and simple, I love Tara.

Yup, I really do love Tara* and I really do want to be with her forevah!

Honestly, love is the reason why I put up with the stuff that I do (and, in all fairness to Tara, why she puts up with stuff from me). I love Tara so much and I KNOW that I want to be with her for the rest of my life.

2. I can be romantic and, contrary to previously held beliefs, it's not all that hard.

Self-explanatory. Y'all only need to read previous posts of this blog, particularly the early stuff in September.

3. It takes two to make a relationship work and both people have to make the relationship a priority. Outside stuff should not affect our relationship (mom-drama, friend drama, work, etc.)

Tara and I are in the habit of letting other people get in the way of the relationship. This mainly applies to friends and such, where we do things like go out or help friend through their crises. While that's good stuff to do, it can't be like that all the time. There has to be balance. At the same time, we are going to have outside influences and stress, but they can't affect our relationship, the way that we are together. That stuff is outside. Only we can create the insular shield that will protect us from these other matters.

4. Tara needs to be a high priority in my life and not taken for granted. She needs to be made to feel special.

This is separate from #3 because I have the habit of not making Tara feel special, that she is extremely important in my life. I am working on this.

5. Compromise on both parts is key.

This should be self-explanatory, but it's not. For the majority of our relationship, it has been Tara comprimising to me. Now, the situation has flipped and I'm the one compromising. It can't be like that. Because, eventually, the one who is always bending backwards is gonna snap. There needs to be an equal give and take.

Part 2

Sunshine

*Yup, I'm dropping the T-thing. It's been getting annoying to me for a while now.